Drudgery and Dreams

Neurodivergent Sensory, Stims, & Supports

Rocking, magnets, and squeeks*! Oh my! In this episode, we get into the nitty gritty of the senses, all eight of them. You heard that right—EIGHT, not the five you were taught in elementary school! Then things get stimmy when Molly shares how multiple ND people in one home can be tricky and Angela adds that knowing your own sensory profile as well as those in your space allows for more time with the parasympathetic nervous system activated—hint, this is what regulation looks like! Point being, wherever you are in your ND journey—psst, self-diagnosis is valid—you deserve support and that support helps you do the things that you want to do for yourself and others.

Stardate 76568.5 Molly’s Neurodivergent, Queer, Squeektastic Voyage

Sergeant Squeaks is in the house! Molly may not have known they were neurodivergent their whole life–but now that she does? Well–that’s what this episode is all about. Reflecting on the highest and lowest points of her past to acknowledge the (now obvious) signs of her ND life. Listen as Angela helps Molly talley up the list of uniquely squeeky things that make Molly the unique geek she truly is. When the mice wake up Cinderella and the aqua marker enters the scene, things truly land in the Delta Quadrant. Engage!

Angela’s ADHD, Queer, Autistic Wonderland

You asked for it so here it is. Angela’s story. Angela takes Molly on a tour through her Wonderland. The story starts in Weirdville and takes a side quest to Queertown. A trip to Autisticland brings back memories for Molly as she recalls Angela’s first visit before she realized that it was home. And Angela admits that she hid in the burrow of ADHD for the longest time not realizing that her real home was where all of these places converge. The interstates are all connected at the heart of Wonderland where Angela now spends most of her time. 

Anti-Resolution and New Year’s Transitions

Welcome to Season 2! Molly and Angela are excited to get going this year! And what better topic than resolutions and transitions, right? True to their ND spirits, they aren’t jumping on the resolutions bandwagon. Instead, they are talking anti-resolutions by not making resolutions at all or—YIKES!—only making resolutions that you actually want to make that are thought through and designed for success! And those pesky transitions come up again as they talk about personal transitions, kid transitions, and transitions through changing social norms.

Medicine, Masks, and Meltdowns

Depending on your own neurospicy flavor, this week's episode may be a must listen. We're talking all about how medicines eff with our ability to mask, the different ways people in the neurodivergent community view masking, and all the overloads/meltdowns--and even this word is a controversy in the community--that come as a result of life with AND without meds.

The Zone of Consent

We are giving a big ass enthusiastic YES! to this one!!! From FRIES to rings and yummy goodness in between, this episode is a full course meal! Angela loves to blow folks’ minds with her take on consent and Molly reminds us all that not only is consent a process, but learning about it and how to incorporate it into your life is a process, too. With detailed explanations from a variety of consent sources as well as lived experience and real life examples, we know there are lots of practical nuggets you can use today as well as loads of questions you might need answered…PS, ASK THEM at https://drudgeryanddreams.com/contact/

Touched Out, Peopled Out

Touch and connection with people. It’s something we all need but we want it on our own terms. Molly and Angela talk about being touched out and peopled out in this episode. Join us for this conversation as we talk about the shame and guilt that comes with touch in a variety of our relationships and how we can move away from those feelings while creating, building, and maintaining relationships in ways that work for us and support the needs and desires of everyone involved.

Navigating the Holidays as a Neurodivergent Queer Human

The holidays. We could probably just stop there and our point is made. Alas, we have more to say.  Join us as we talk about challenges that neurodivergent and queer ADULTS (of course, we do talk about the littles as well, we are parents after all) experience at this time of year. With its hearty belly laughs, spirited rants, and quiet moments of reflection, this is an episode you don’t want to miss! 
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Angela Locashio
Bringing “sense” to the conversation”--Angela helps individuals and organizations cultivate skills, spaces, and confidence to advocate for themselves and each other.INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | LINKEDIN
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Giving a big Fork you to cookie cutter solutions, Molly helps busy As Fuck neurodivergent entrepreneurs make shit happen by bringing stability to their businesses while helping them do what makes sense to their brain.
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Co-Regulation and Neurodiversity

In this episode of Drudgery and Dreams, Molly and Angela dive into the importance of co-regulation. Last week, Molly showed us all how to co-regulate when she supported Angela when she got overwhelmed and was legit frozen from the restraints of time and the sheer amount of things she wanted to say about something she is so passionate about (BDSM as a healthy way to regulate). We address the value of co-regulation in all of our relationships—partnerships, friendships, as parents, at work, etc.  

BDSM Outside of the Bedroom

Bondage, Dominance, Submission…let’s talk about that! Today, Molly and Angela delve into BDSM—but not exactly in the way you might expect. We aren’t talking about sex, baby! This episode is all about understanding how the structure and practices within BDSM can support us individually as well as in our relationships with others. And you’ll get a first hand spontaneous and accidental demonstration of how Molly and Angela use those principles in their interactions together as Molly supports Angela when she gets overwhelmed with constraints on talking about her special interest.
 
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